Here is a friendly reminder – you’re allowed to feel whatever it is that you are feeling right now, and no, not everyone feels the same after divorcing.
The great thing about feelings is that they don’t have answers, so there can be no wrong answers (how you treat people is an entirely different matter).
Some experience feelings after divorce as an intense loss and feel incredibly sad, sometimes people feel relieved, some people feel overwhelmed and find it difficult to figure out how to be on their own again. Some people go through all 5 stages of grief, and some jump for joy because they feel free after divorcing.
It is perfectly okay to take time to feel the emotions of what you are experiencing.
Letting Go
One huge part of grieving a divorce is letting go. Letting go mean can mean a lot of things, but it is always a good idea to avoid stalking your ex on social media. It is also a great idea to set boundaries around communication. We know this can be incredibly difficult but hanging on won’t help you see the future that is in front of you, nor will it change the fact that you’re now divorced.
It can also be helpful to find pleasant distractions.
Discover (or Rediscover) What Makes You Happy
Rediscovering a lost hobby, passion, or interest can be an excellent way to help avoid ruminating on a divorce. Think about what things you might have lost to the relationship, or just age and time: when was the last time you played that guitar of yours?
Maybe you would prefer to learn something new like joining a club, or maybe it is time to finally take that cooking class that you’ve always been interested in.
It is incredibly important to remember that you’re not alone.
Seeking Connections to Others
Of course, it is great to reach out and find groups that share common interests and hobbies, but if you’re experiencing a persistent sadness, it might be a good idea to reach out to support groups that specialize in divorce.
As your friendly, local divorce lawyers of Fort Collins, we found a few groups in the area.
Some support groups are religious, such as the City Park Church which meets on Wednesdays at 6:30PM and the Redeemer Lutheran Church which meets on Mondays at 6:30 PM.
There are also groups for divorcee’s of specific demographics, such as Single Mom’s Support Group which is meets every other Tuesday from 6pm-7:30.
If you’re unsure of group therapy, there are also many therapists which specialist in helping people move on from divorce.
We want to remind you that even though divorce can be incredibly difficult, it is not the end! You still have a future ahead of you that can be full of happy experiences, adventure, and even love.
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